The Reviews Are In!

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I love hearing what people think about my book and was pleasantly surprised to get this private message on Facebook today.  Of course I asked for her permission to post this and she gave me the okie dokie.

Hello there!

I just finished your book. Wow. I will review on Amazon later but wanted to just tell you a few things.

First and foremost, if I ever wrote a book, it would be probably in the same style as you wrote yours. I will admit it took me a bit to get into that style and be able to read it. Once I figured out where you were coming from it went so much smoother.

I believe you. I believe all of what you wrote. Why? Because of how you told your story. No glitz, no fancy editing. Almost like we spent the afternoon together chatting. I also believe you because of my childhood. It was no where near as traumatic as yours, I should be thankful, but strangely, I am not.

At times, I actually cringed for the choices you made and yelled at you for making them. I may even have cursed you a few times. Okay, a lot of times. Most of my thoughts were “Why would you do that?”! At some points I had to step back and realize at what age you were making those decision. I found myself judging you over and over again. I based what you were doing on my 48 years of living. Not if I would of done something similar at the same age you were. So, as humbling as it is, I realized that I still have a lot to learn about respect and empathy. Thank you for that.

Now, I didn’t realize that you had tested positive for HIV. That broke my heart. I know I have talked about (name omitted) before to you…. He tested positive about 8 years ago. It has been a long road for us, so I am glad to see that you are still doing well after all these years. (name omitted) is mentally tired of it all and there are days that I am in fear of him taking his life. I am going to see him in a few weeks, so will attempt to get him to read this book. Not sure I want to live without my Kindle that long, but if it helps him, then it would be a small price to pay.

Reading your book, I realized we actually had parallel lives. I am not gay, never really suffered from being stigmatized for that, but I still know the pain of being bullied, abused, moving every few years and having a family that I did not feel a part of. I admire you, I respect you and most of all, I am glad you lived to tell your story.

I am happy you have someone in your life that completes you, that is your soul mate. I am so happy for the two of you and wish you nothing but the best that life has to offer.

If you ever make it to Michigan, for publicity or whatnot, let me know… I would love to actually have a chat with you over coffee someday. I am pretty sure there is yet another book in you, let me know once you decide to write it, I will be one of your biggest cheerleaders!

I have to agree with you, I also wish that I had made different choices in my life, but you don’t learn lessons unless you make bad choices, right? I do regret many things, but I wouldn’t take anything back. I basically wrote the same way that I would be telling it to someone in person because I figured it would probably be easier to read for most people who don’t normally like to read. But also, it’s just the only way I know how to tell a story.

There were TONS of things I left out because A they were irrelevant and B because they were TMI LOL. I really wished that I could have added those things, but I was told the masturbation story was too much information, and that was about as TMI as I think it got. I was told to leave it out, but I mean come on, who doesn’t do that, right? I wanted to show that I was human lol.

I probably won’t be able to do a publicity tour since I self published and I don’t have any marketing. Facebook is my only marketing strategy.

Anyway, thank you for your email, I really appreciate the feedback.

Michel McDonald

Diary of a Gay Nerd is a bit less expensive now

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I wrote my book Diary of a Gay Nerd for therapy, but I published it because I thought it would help other people.  I agreed that the price was a bit high, $16.99 for the paperback and $6.99 for the ebook.  The reason the paperback was so high was because CreateSpace’s (an Amazon publisher) fees were so high to print the paperback, that I was only getting a couple dollars back.  I wanted the money so that I could make the donations to all three of my charities, but I wasn’t getting any sales from the paperback at all, so I have decided to lower the price down to $10.00  Believe me, I tried making it $7.99, $8.99 and $9.99 but it wouldn’t let me because the European sales were giving me no profit which I guess wasn’t working for them.  The profits are so low that I probably will never see a dime, but I don’t care about that.

The reason the ebook was so expensive was basically for the same reason, I was only getting a couple of dollars back, but I really don’t care how much money I get back from the ebook anymore.

I never intended to get rich from this book, I only wanted to get my story out there, so now I have made it easier for you to get a copy.

The Kindle version will be $3.99 and the paperback will be $10.00 at Amazon and the Nook version will also be $3.99 at Barnes & Noble.  And finally the ebook version at Rainbow eBooks is $3.99.  Remember, if you buy from Rainbow eBooks, you are supporting a LGBT business who makes donations to many LGBT issues.

I really hope that you buy my book because I want everyone to know my story.  Once again, 30% of ALL sales will go to 3 LGBT charities of my choices so they each get 10% as it says on the front of the book.  You aren’t just helping me, you are helping others by buying my ebook and paperback.

Bless you all and thank you for reading.

New Front Page Design

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The first page of a website is the first thing that people see, and first impressions are everything.  After all, we all judge a book by its cover, and this page is for my book Diary of a Gay Nerd, so I have to make sure the front page is pleasant to look at.

I liked my other image, but it has been on the website for over a year and I thought it was time for a change.  So here is the new image with icons.  I thought about adding some more pages like my other website, but I honestly don’t know what to add that isn’t already on the blog, so I think I will just keep it the way it is for now.

I would like to blog more, but I spend way too much time on Facebook which is where most of my audience is, so I don’t really know what to blog about that isn’t already on Facebook.  I don’t know if it’s writers block, or if I have just said all that needed to be said with the book.

I didn’t make the frame, I got that from an app on my phone called Picsart.  I did however create the images inside the frames as well as created all new icons so they all matched.  I hope it’s nice to look at.

Please buy the paperback at Amazon as well as the ebook for the Kindle, the ebook for the Nook and help support LGBT businesses by buying the ebook at Rainbow eBooks (the .mobi file works for the Kindle and the .epub file works for the Nook as well as iBooks for the iPhone/iPod/iPad and Aldiko for the Android) and they always have sales.  Make sure to add it to Goodreads and please give me a review and rate my book.  I really appreciate that.  Also make sure you visit me on Facebook and say hey on Twitter too.

I donate 30% of all profits to 3 charities (they each get 10%) which are PFLAG Bakersfield, The Bakersfield Gay & Lesbian Center as well as the Bakersfield AIDS Project: Ricky’s Retreat.

I really appreciate all the support I have received since I published my book and I thank you all for reading and listening.

What Is My Main Focus Anyway?

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I wrote my memoir and published it in February 2012.  My memoir (if you haven’t read it) is about child abuse, anti-gay bullying, acceptance, heartbreak, relationships and health matters.  When I published my memoir, I created a website with a blog, a book fan page for Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and Showcase Freedom with the main purpose of selling books, but also to share stories that are in the news about child abuse, anti-gay bullying, acceptance, heartbreak and relationships in the gay community.  I have never veered off course, although I haven’t been trying to sell books as much as I should, but my main focus is what is happening in the world today.

Speaking of which… Buy my book at Amazon on paperback or for your Kindle, Barnes & Noble for your Nook only and Rainbow eBooks.  30% of all profits go to charity.

Some of the things that I post or have posted on Facebook in the past have been hurtful towards some people because they were anti-religion.  I am not trying to be anti-religion, but I do post things that religious anti-gay people say or do because it is part of what I dealt with when I came out of the closet and what people are being put through today.  Those anti-gay religious people are who made me the atheist I am today.  I don’t have anything against religion itself, but I will post images, quotes and stories of religious people being anti-gay.  I don’t think I am being disrespectful, they are the ones who are being disrespectful.  You can’t expect me to not say anything and let them walk all over gay people can you?  I refuse to apologize for that.

I saw an image of Snooki with a quote of her saying this:

“There is no way I’m changing any diapers when my baby is born. That is disgusting,” she said.”That’s what maids are for and babysitters. I don’t have time for that. I’ll have them do that stuff. I’ll be there for the good parts, like dressing my son up, making sure he got style. You don’t have to cook or clean or change diapers to be a good mother.”

Some people were outraged that she would say such a thing, one person in particular got mad at me because I was attacking someone he admired by posting that on my page.  He said that my page was specifically for “the gay community.”  Don’t tell me what my page is for!  That’s my page, not yours.  He didn’t like that I posted it, so he not only stopped being a fan of my page/book, but he also unfriended me.  Look, my page isn’t just about gay rights, it is also about child abuse and this falls under that category.  Although I have seen her show Snooki and Jwoww so I am no longer worried about her being a terrible mother because she has proven that she will be a good mother and raise her child in a loving environment.  Not that she has to prove herself to me or anyone else, but my opinion of her has changed since seeing her with her baby.

Look, I am going to post things that people may not like, but think of it this way, I only post 5% of what I see in my feed.  There are so many things that I could be posting, but I don’t because I don’t want to overload people with everything that I have to see on a daily basis.  So what you see is the best of the best, even though it seems pretty bad.

Sometimes there is a story with an image of a beat up child that says in the story that the father or uncle or brother needs to be caught, then that story goes to the front of the line.  I’m sure not everyone is going to see that story or know who the child is, but even if 1 person out of 1159 sees it and knows that person or saw that person, then he gets caught and arrested because I posted that story, then I have done my duty and I won’t apologize for that.

Abraham Lincoln said:

“You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time.”

I post what I feel is appropriate.  Most may think it’s awesome while one might think it’s the worst idea ever.  See quote above.

I am sorry if someone doesn’t like something that I post, but I won’t apologize for posting it.  I may have had a reason for posting something.  If I agree that what I posted was offensive, then I usually remove it, but if it’s not offensive then it stays.

That guy who unfreinded me over the Snooki post said that I was supposed to be anti-bully, but I was being a bully.  Every time he commented on any of my posts, it was almost always a nasty or rude comment.  He could never say anything nice to me, but he was calling me a bully.  While I was still his “friend” on Facebook, every time I saw him comment on anyone else’s post, it was always a nasty or rude comment.  So I ask, who was the bully?

My main focus since I began has never changed.  If the day ever comes when people are no longer beating up children or are no longer bashing gay people then I won’t have anything bad to post and I can start posting images of panda bears, baby penguins, babies and kittens.  I would love it if that fantasy ever came true.  Until then…

My First Charity Donation

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I have been waiting for the Amazon check to arrive to be able to write out checks to the organizations that I will be donating 30% (10% each) of books sales to, and it finally came. I’m sure most people would wait a whole year, but I’ve been chomping at the bit to give the money because it would make me feel good to help out where I can.

October the 4th 2012 is the monthly PFLAG Bakersfield meeting, and Audrey Chavez who runs Ricky’s Retreat, the Bakersfield AIDS Project is going to be one of the guest speakers, the other is Robert Petersen who is PFLAG Bakersfield’s Vice President, so I will take that opportunity to give them each my first donation.  I will have to mail the check to the Gay and Lesbian Center of Bakersfield.

Book sales haven’t been as great as it was in the beginning when I first published it, so I’m not sure when I will be able to make another donation.  I really feel bad about that, but I have basically no advertising money; it’s all word of mouth.  I’m sure if I will ever be able to make another donation from book sales, it will probably be next year in October as well.  I hope they will be bigger checks than these are.

Donations Are Coming Soon

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I published my book “Diary of a Gay Nerd” in February this year and had intended on donating 10% to 3 different charities.  10% would go to PFLAG Bakersfield, 10% would go to The Gay and Lesbian Center of Bakersfield and then another 10% would go to Bakersfield AIDS Project, Ricky’s Retreat.

My profits haven’t been as high as I had hoped, but whatever I have made is still money and I can start making my first donation hopefully either in late September or early October, but it might be late October, who knows for sure.  I am just waiting on Amazon.

You know it’s funny, I feel kind of excited about giving the money away lol.  I don’t know why, most people would be hesitant especially when they are always broke, but I want them to have some money too, you know?  I can’t describe the feeling, maybe someone out there understands what I mean.

Anyway, it will be soon and I can’t wait!

My Paperback on Amazon

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I can’t believe it.  My paperback book is finally available on Amazon as well as the Kindle edition.  I think it’s pretty cool actually.  The Kindle version is $6.99 and the paperback version is $16.99 with free Super Saver shipping with purchases of $25 or more.

Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would be able to write a book and have it for sale on Amazon.  I think it’s pretty cool, but that’s just me.

My Paper Book at CreateSpace

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The e-book version of my book will always be available for the Kindle at Amazon and the Nook at Barnes & Noble and in other formats from RainboweBooks.com for only $6.99.  If you don’t have an e-book reader then you can buy the paper book version at CreateSpace for $16.99.  It will be available on Amazon in 5-7 business days from today and I will add another post when it becomes available.

I was going to wait until it was available through Amazon because I’m sure some people would be more willing to buy from a company they know and trust.  CreateSpace is who is publishing the book and they are an Amazon Company so it doesn’t really matter where you get it from.

My book is print-on-demand and they usually print it immediately.  I ordered my proof copy on Monday and got it today.  It was shipped to me from North Charleston, SC and it only took a few days via UPS so you won’t have to worry about it taking a long time to get to you.

Thank you for taking an interest in my book and I look forward to hearing what you think of it.

Revised Edition

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If you are one of the many who bought my book from Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Rainbow eBooks and have noticed a lot of errors, please feel free to redownload the file because I have corrected all of the errors.  Well, all of the errors that I recognized to be errors.

I spent the last 3 days re-reading the book to find and fix the typos and grammatical errors.  I seriously have no idea how that even happened because I thought it was finished, otherwise I wouldn’t have published it when I did.  Thank goodness Chip caught a few of the errors when I got the proof book on Wednesday.  There was one error that I wouldn’t have even caught if I didn’t read it again, the page numbers on one side of one of the chapters, I believe it was chapter 11 was missing.  I don’t know how I missed that lol.  He also noticed some redundancy issues in the description on the back of the book which I had to fix in Gimp.

I was glad that I found the errors and fixed them because I didn’t want the paper version to have the errors.  I mean, e-book errors are one thing because they can be downloaded again, but a paper book is forever.  You cannot update a paper book.

I don’t know if the Nook and/or Kindle will automatically update the ebook for you, but I do know that the files from Rainbow eBooks will have to be downloaded again.  I would send out an email if I knew who downloaded the book, but I don’t so I only hope that you are going to my website and are reading this right now.

Thanks for your purchase.

Edit: Rainbow eBooks files have been updated, the Nook and Kindle files may take 12-24 hours.  Check in at Noon on Sunday…

Edit: The Nook file on the B&N website and the Kindle file on the Amazon website have been updated.  However, it will not update on your Nook or Kindle automatically.  If you want to receive the update, you will have to delete it and download it again.  Here is a quote from the FAQ section:

“If you replace your NOOK Book file, customers who have already purchased and downloaded your NOOK Book will not have the NOOK Book replaced on their devices. If they delete and re-download your NOOK Book, or if they download the NOOK Book for the first time to a new device, they will receive the updated file.”

I can only assume this would be the same for the Kindle.  Again, I am very sorry for the inconvenience this may have caused you, but it is worth it if you have found errors that drive you as crazy as it has driven me.

I tried to delete an e-book from my Nook that I bought in the Nook store but there wasn’t an option to delete.  So maybe you are wondering how you can delete a book if your Kindle or Nook won’t let you.  Perhaps you can plug your device into your computer so you can view the files.  Find where the e-books are that you paid for and delete mine.  When you unplug it, go into your library where your paid books are and have it check for new content.  It will find my book and download the updated version.  I hope this helps.

Re-editing My Book

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I was so ready for my book to be published and I thought that I had fixed every error there was to fix, but apparently I was wrong.  I knew I should have read it one final time just to be sure, but I just wanted to be finished with it and have it out there in the world.

I got the proof of the paper book and started to “proof” it and found 6 errors in the first 10 minutes.  I continued to read and found 2 more errors 40 pages ahead, but since then have found even more.  I have been working hard to read it and get it ready to print so just know I am working on it.

For those who bought the e-book version through Amazon, Barnes & Noble and Rainbow eBooks, I would like to apologize for the grammatical errors you may have come across.  As soon as I finish reading the whole book again and fix all of the errors I will be uploading the file so you can download a fresh copy.

Rainbow eBooks users can just go in and download the file again, but I’m not positive how it works for Nook and Kindle users.  I am not sure if your device will automatically update the file or if you have to do something special but I’m pretty sure that it should update on its own if you log in to the book store for your device.  Of course I will notify Amazon and Barnes & Noble of the update so they can update devices if that is what they do.  I won’t really know until I do the update.

At any rate, just know that I am aware of the grammatical errors and I am working on it and I thank you for your patience.