Of all of my childhood memories, this has to be one of those things that has just made me laugh every time I think about it. I may have been 13 years old during this time, but this is a mature subject so use your discretion. Oh and this isn’t the actual “massager” but it is very similar. Same color and same shape.
The apartment building that we lived in had four duplicate buildings. Ours was right on the corner so there were five in a row. My mom had a friend named Adele who was an older woman in her 80’s who lived with her husband and her niece and their sixty cats (I kid you not). I don’t know how my mom became friends with Adele considering they lived in the last apartment building so far away from us.
Adele was always calling to ask if I would come over and take her trash out for her. She would pay me $10 as a tip for helping her, so I really didn’t mind. Sometimes she had a lot of trash and then she would give me $20. It wouldn’t have been so bad, but it was mostly all cat litter and that stuff was heavy. I usually had to make two or three trips to get the rest. It made it particularly difficult because she lived on the third floor and I had to take the stairs because the elevator was too far away from her apartment.
I was over at her house one day and as she was gathering her garbage for me to take out. She grabbed something very strange, it was long and beige in color and had a curve at the tip. It had a little switch on the bottom that you turned and it would vibrate. She held this strange object up and showed it to me and told me how she uses it to vibrate the stiff muscles in her arms and she held it up to her face to massage her cheek. I was only thirteen, but I knew what a vibrator was, I wasn’t stupid. I don’t know how I knew what it was, but I did. As she was showing it to me she said “it’s in the darnedest shape though.” …yeah.
I went home and told my mom how Adele showed me her vibrator and she was laughing so hard that she was crying. Her laughing made me laugh. She didn’t know that I knew what a vibrator was, so hearing her thirteen-year-old kid say that so matter of fact made it even funnier.
We lived in the first apartment building on the left (black dot) and Adele lived towards the end, but I can’t remember if she lived in the 4th or 5th. I’m pretty sure it was the 4th though.
I was abused as a child and not one person reported it to the police. Although I live to tell the tale, it could have been much worse than it was, but why put me through the torture at all? I don’t want another child to go through this and if putting someone in jail for 5 years is going to save a life then so be it.
Failure to report is classified as a misdemeanor in 39 States and American Samoa, Guam, and the Virgin Islands. In Arizona, Florida, and Minnesota, misdemeanors are upgraded to felonies for failure to report more serious situations, while in Illinois and Guam, second or subsequent violations are classified as felonies.
Brianna Lopez would be 6 years old now had her death at 6 months of age in 2002 not revealed perhaps the most brutal child-abuse case in state history.
The story of Baby Brianna is a hard one, but it is the ugly reality of child abuse. Violent family members caused her death while others hid what they knew was going on.
“They raped her; they beat her,” said District Attorney Susana Martinez who prosecuted the case. “She had bite marks on her face, cheek, head, arms, legs, chest, torso, everywhere.
“Literally bruised from head to toe, from the top of her head all throughout her body all the way to the big toe on her right foot.”
She was beaten and raped by her own family.
More needs to be done to punish people like Brianna’s grandmother and uncle who failed to report the abuse.
“Those two individuals knew she was being abused,” Martinez said. “She was full of bruises that were old: green, brown, yellow-colored.” “Had they reported it early, had they and insisted on that child not being abused maybe we would have never had her death take place.”
For failing to report the abuse the three were sentenced to 30 days in jail. The maximum is one year.
By making it a felony for failing to report child abuse, we ask that there is a minimum jail sentence of 5 years. No child should ever have to suffer like this. Let this serve as an example to break the silence and end the cycle of abuse once and for all.