22 Years!


22 year anniversary cake

My partner and I are celebrating 22 years together today. No we never got married, and we probably won’t due to his and his families religious and political preferences, but that’s okay, because I don’t need a piece of paper or a ring.

I personally didn’t think we would make it the first year because we had our little trivial arguments about trivial things in the first year like all new couples do. You know, because when you are put in a living situation with someone who is practically a stranger, and you know nothing about that person, you both have to adapt to the other person’s personal habits. Like the toilet paper and paper towel situation. Does it go over or under? In my opinion it goes over, but to him it goes under. When we moved to Bakersfield, his mother had it going under too, so obviously he was taught that by his parents, just like I was taught by my parents the correct way (LOL). I also had a bad track record with relationships because my first 3 before my current one always ended after 10 months. Why 10 months I will never know. I guess neither of us were ready to give up on each other over stupid things, so here we are 22 years later.

I bought a cake tonight at the local Albertson’s. You can’t tell from this picture, but it’s one of those small round cakes. It’s 2 layers, and it’s probably 2 slices lol. I also bought some ice cream, chocolate for him and cookies and cream for me.

Well, here’s to another 22 years, if we are both still alive lol. Who knows, perhaps we will be married before we die.


SCOTUS Ruling that makes same-sex marriage law of the land in the USA


I haven’t really been paying attention to the news lately because of health issues and some very bad news from the doctor, which I will not go into right now. I did hear that the Supreme Court ruled by a 5 to 4 vote on Friday that the constitution of the United States of America guarantees rights to same-sex couples to marry. You’re darn tootin’!

Why should straight people be allowed to have something, but then say that gay people can’t have it just because they are gay? It makes absolutely no sense. Why are straight people so privileged? It’s not a religious thing, obviously it’s not otherwise my Atheist aunt and uncle wouldn’t be married. It’s a human right that a couple, any couple, should be allowed to get married. And anyway, why would anyone care if Jim Bob and Billy Bob (ok I’m not very creative tonight) got married? You don’t know them, so why does their relationship matter to you?

This is a huge victory because this means that Brad Pitt can finally marry Angelina Jolie. He did say he wasn’t going to get married until EVERYONE in this country was allowed to get married, and now we can, so where’s my invitation Brad?

I’m sure there are a lot of people out there who are outraged, like a cousin of mine who made it a point to tell me in 2008 that he was voting Yes on Prop 8. He didn’t have to tell me that, but he did because he wanted to let me know that he disapproves of my relationship. I’m sorry, I don’t recall asking for his, or anyone’s permission. This is MY relationship, so if you don’t like it, that’s your problem, not mine. And personally I really could care less what anyone thinks about this ruling. Get over it! Life is too short for you to be so upset over something that doesn’t really involve you.

I think we still have a lot of work to do because we may have the FREEDOM to marry in ALL states, but there are still many states where it is perfectly legal to fire someone if they found out they are gay. If you are gay and you get married and your boss finds out, they could fire you and there’s not one thing you can do about it because it’s legal. We have to change this. There are also still going to be more suicides by CHILDREN who are bullied in school, their neighborhood or even in their own home. We have to put laws in place to make people accountable for their actions. Tell them that if they cause someone to commit suicide, the bully will go to jail. Someone has to be held accountable for causing children to kill themselves. We may be able to get married, but as long as children are dying, we are losing future doctor’s, lawyers, police officers and Hot Dog on a Stick cashiers etc.

I’ve been hearing a lot about an attack on Christianity, but personally I think being a homophobe isn’t a Christian quality, so the attack on Christianity is coming from within. Jesus Christ wasn’t homophobic, in fact he said to love thy neighbor. There is a huge attack on Christianity when a city makes it illegal to feed homeless people. Jesus Christ would definitely not approve of this. By putting people in jail for feeding homeless people, you are basically saying that Jesus Christ is a criminal for feeding the homeless in his time, and for teaching people to feed the homeless in the bible. Where is the outrage there Christians? Fox News? Come on now, get upset about the REAL issues here!

Anyway, yay for our victory, but let’s get back to work to continue to fix the messed up laws in this country.

DOMA Unconstitutional and the Repeal of Prop 8



Today is a glorious day for LGBT Americans. The Supreme Court of the United States ruled the Defense of marriage act to be unconstitutional. That means that the federal government will recognize the marriage of all Americans, not only heterosexual marriages.

This is a huge step for humanity in my opinion. Although not everyone will agree with me because they believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. Love is love, period. It is none of anyone’s business who loves whom. Period, end of debate. It’s pretty arrogant for anyone to say that my 19 year relationship is less important than Kim Kardashian’s 72 day marriage to Kris Humphries.

We in California will not be able to get married for probably another month, if that, but I do believe that this will boost our bad economy since people will be buying wedding gifts for their friends who will finally be able to get married. So stock up on toasters and blenders while they are still on store shelves.

#MarriageEquality #LoveIsLove #Prop8 #DOMA #DecisionDay

gay toaster

I am mentioned in this article from Examiner.com – Central California gay community celebrates DOMA decision by Greg Fields

Chick-Fil-A Appreciation Day


I haven’t posted in awhile and I apologize for that.  I am here to talk about what happened yesterday because it seems that people were/are very confused and/or ignorant about the facts in the case of “Chick-Fil-A Appreciation Day.”

You may have noticed that people are outraged that gay people have the audacity to boycott this Christian Atlanta based fast food giant.  People aren’t aware of all the facts, they judge us before they know what’s happening because the media is not telling them what is happening.  They are just telling you that we are evil for hating Chick-Fil-A and that we are all heathens for boycotting a Christian company because they spoke out against gay marriage.  That’s not the whole story.

You have to understand that gay people aren’t upset over their opinion because we expect them to say they are against gay marriage because they are a Christian company.  The thing that was upsetting to us was that they have spent nearly $5 million dollars on anti-gay causes and then made the statement that they are “guilty as charged.”  That was what fueled this whole thing.  Take a look at this.

If you don’t see why we are so outraged by this, then I really don’t know what else to say.  Exodus International alone is enough to piss us off because they took that money and they weren’t even able to do what they said they were doing.  They apologized to gay people for what they did AND they left their wives because THEY WERE GAY!  They took your money to convert gay people to straight and it was all for nothing.

Not convinced?  Take a look at this article from The Advocate.  Chick-Fil-A Donates $2 Mil to Antigay Groups.  They donated $2 million in 2010, they also donated $2 million in 2009.  Do you really think this is all about our religious bigotry now?  Why is a restaurant spending so much money to fund hate?  I mean, isn’t religion supposed to be about love and doing what Jesus would do (WWJD)?  Do you think Jesus Christ would approve of such behavior coming from a Christian based fast food restaurant?  No, I don’t think he would.

Thanks to Mike Huckabee for (allegedly) lying to his viewers by not giving them these facts when he told them that there should be a Chick-Fil-A Appreciation Day which spawned this “Top 50 Homophobic Chick-Fil-A Tweets (with images).”

I think that I’ve seen and heard enough hatred in my 42 years from being bullied by my step-father and sister, school bullies and other homophobic people in my life that I am no longer shocked, but some of those tweets shook me to the core.  I mean I was literally shaking and my stomach was in knots.  Take a look.

  • Love chick fil a, even more so now that they hate fags. Thank gawd i can eat my chicken without the risk of getting aids!
  • I want some Chick-Fil-A, I also want some faggots to die
  • If I was Chick Fil A’s owner, I’d be happy that gay ppl protesting nshit. I wouldn’t want them filthy HIV+ fags eating my good chicken.
  • Stfu about chickfila if your a fag you shouldn’t go out in public, its just a successful business doing it the right way
  • If any body sees fags kissing in front of Chick-fil-a please feel free to hit them with you car.

Those were all that I could stomach before I had to stop reading the rest.  That last person told people to murder gay people with their car if they see them kissing in front of a Chick-Fil-A.  Is this how Jesus would want you people to talk?  I don’t think so.  What would Jesus do in this situation?  I think he would ask for all of the facts before he made a decision and I think he would side with the gay people on this.  He certainly wouldn’t condone murdering someone.  It is in the 10 commandments “Thou shall not kill.”  There is a passage about killing people for working on the sabbath, you don’t see people tweeting to kill people for working on Sunday do you?  No because it is illegal to murder people.

African American people fought for their freedom when they were slaves.  Women fought for their equality and the right to vote.  African Americans and Caucasion people fought for their rights to marry and that is all we are trying to do.  We just want a piece of paper giving us the same rights that heterosexual people have so that we can visit our life partners in the hospital and so we can bury them when they die and not be kicked out of our own houses because their family doesn’t recognize our relationship as being valid.

Someone posted a comment today saying that someone said that “Gay people have all the same freedoms that straight people have.  They have the freedom to marry the OPPOSITE sex if they want to.”

Put yourself in our situation.  Let’s say the roles were reversed and it was that gay people were normal, but straight people were the ones who didn’t have the right to marry.  Would you marry someone of the same sex just because you could?  No, because you would want to be with your spouse, not someone of the same sex.  Tell me you wouldn’t be fighting for what we are fighting for.  Tell me that your wife or your husband would be ok if you left them for someone of the same sex because it was more accepted.  You wouldn’t be ok with it, so why should we be ok with being forced to marry someone of the opposite sex when we aren’t straight?

Next time someone tells you that gay people are only whining about something stupid and insignificant, get the facts before jumping on the bandwagon and calling for the murder of a group of people simply because you don’t agree with how they were born.

My hope is that one day humanity will finally be able to evolve so that there is no more hatred among humanity.  I don’t mean to sound like a hippy, but I’m going to.  Why can’t we all just find peace and stop this fighting?  With peace there will be no more war and everyone can finally love their fellow man the way Jesus had intended it to be in the first place.  In the words of Rodney King may he rest in peace “Why can’t we all just get along?”

Sources: Images were taken from different sources, top one being http://imgur.com/lNItY and Chick-Fil-A $5 Mil chart from Say “NO” to Anti-Gay “Chick-Fil-A” on Facebook.

Update: I didn’t add it before because I didn’t research it enough, but I found an article that has more information about Chick-Fil-A Profits Are Supprting ‘Kill the Gays’ bill in Uganda.  Apparently in 2010, the Family Research Council spent $25,000 lobbying U.S. Congress to NOT condemn Uganda’s ‘Kill the Gays’ bill.  Chick-Fil-A donated $2 million towards these hate groups in 2009 and another $2 million in 2010 to FMC, which is where they got that money to spend on allowing a country to kill their own people based on how they were born.  Disgusting!