Personal Updates


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I haven’t been blogging much about my personal life over here because I have another blog over at Xanapus’ Lair.  So here are a few updates.

On January 5th I decided that it was time for me to go on a strict diet, but not so much a diet just to lose weight, but to change my eating habits for good.  My eating was out of control and the only way to fix that was to change everything.  I downloaded an app on my phone called “Noom” and it changed my life.  Since January 5th 2013, I have officially lost 46lbs.  Although I was at the doctor today which brings my weight loss up to 48lbs.  My weigh in days are Saturday so we will see what the number is then.

Starting this new life meant getting my bike fixed and I did, sort of.  My back wheel keeps deflating and I don’t understand why.  I bought a Co2 pump and cartridges to keep it pumped up, but it keeps deflating.  I was going to start riding 33miles a day, but some other fate stepped in and stopped me from being able to ride my bike at all.  I was in an accident on March 16th and broke my arm.  It has been 3 weeks since I broke it and it is healing, but I probably won’t be back on the bike for another month.

My weight loss goal of losing 63lbs will probably end in a month or so, right about the time that I can start riding my bike again so that’s actually a good thing.  Once I get down to 200lbs I will set another goal to get down to 170 so I will be riding the bike during that goal.  That’s actually perfect because I do plan on buying an airless tube to put in the back wheel so I never have to worry about a flat tire again.  I’ve been told that if you are over 200lbs then it will always feel like you have a flat tire, that’s why I say it’s perfect because I will be under 200lbs by then, so no worries.

I started writing another book, but it turned out that I didn’t have anything more than a few hundred words to say, so that fizzled out.  Then I started writing another book, but then broke my arm which made it impossible to type.  I can type out a regular blog post using the voice recognition of my phone, but to write a book with a phone is next to impossible, so that’s not going to work for me.  I will continue working on it though.  Just in case you are wondering what it is about, it’s sort of a diary, but not of my past.  I don’t really want to go into it too much though.

I will have a free signed paperback book giveaway to celebrate my weight loss goal as well as a free signed paperback book giveaway on my birthday in June, so I will be giving away 2 books total.  I will post the information here then.  In the past I have done giveaways with Goodreads, but I think that has left the fans of the Facebook page in the dust, so I will keep it to my blog only this time.  That will happen in late May so stay tuned for that.

So that’s pretty much it for now.  I will try to blog here more often, but it seems that I rarely have anything to say that I don’t already say on the Facebook page.  I will work on it, but I make no promises.


My book is therapy for everyone


There seems to be something in the air or maybe the water or perhaps in the stars, I don’t know, but it seems like everyone is picking on me lately.  I posted something on my Facebook profile about how I want to start riding my bike when I get down to a certain weight and I got crap for it.  Someone else insulted something else that I posted.  It’s not just online, people are giving me the rudest looks and strangers are coming up to me and giving me crap for no reason.  Why is everyone picking on me?  So I asked this question on Facebook.

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Someone who is not just a friend, but also a fan of the book page responded and we were talking for a few minutes.  Suddenly I was shocked when this was said.

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As soon as she said that her father cried and said that he loved her more now than ever, I put my hand on my heart and nearly started crying myself.  I was so touched by that.  I knew that my book had helped a few people, but I had no idea that it was helping parents.  I am touched more than anyone could ever know.

I don’t know if it’s my experiences or just talking about my life or things that I as a gay man went through that made him understand what his daughter is going through, but whatever it is, I am glad that it made that big of an impact.

Of course I am not an expert on their relationship, but it can only get better from here on out right?  I’m not a parent, but I am a person who has spent my entire life trying to understand why I am the way that I am and why other people are the way that they are.  It’s not just something that someone woke up one day and decided “today is the day I want to start getting treated unfairly”, that this is just the way we are.  We were born with this.  I as a gay male was born to like other males.  A lesbian was born to like other women.  A bisexual was born to like both sexes (one or the other) and pansexual to just like a person based on their personality whether they are male or female.  Transgendered male to female and female to male is a bit different, but in a sense it’s the same thing.

Anyway, I was touched that she said that her father cried and it began the healing process for them.  This whole conversation made me totally forget about my petty problems because it showed me the bigger picture.  Who cares if a few people are jerks to me, there are people out there with real problems and if my book can help at least one person, then I consider my job done.

So thank you to this person for sharing that with me.  I really hope the healing process goes smoothly because you both deserve to have a real relationship as a parent and child.  It certainly does get better!