There seems to be something in the air or maybe the water or perhaps in the stars, I don’t know, but it seems like everyone is picking on me lately. I posted something on my Facebook profile about how I want to start riding my bike when I get down to a certain weight and I got crap for it. Someone else insulted something else that I posted. It’s not just online, people are giving me the rudest looks and strangers are coming up to me and giving me crap for no reason. Why is everyone picking on me? So I asked this question on Facebook.
Someone who is not just a friend, but also a fan of the book page responded and we were talking for a few minutes. Suddenly I was shocked when this was said.
As soon as she said that her father cried and said that he loved her more now than ever, I put my hand on my heart and nearly started crying myself. I was so touched by that. I knew that my book had helped a few people, but I had no idea that it was helping parents. I am touched more than anyone could ever know.
I don’t know if it’s my experiences or just talking about my life or things that I as a gay man went through that made him understand what his daughter is going through, but whatever it is, I am glad that it made that big of an impact.
Of course I am not an expert on their relationship, but it can only get better from here on out right? I’m not a parent, but I am a person who has spent my entire life trying to understand why I am the way that I am and why other people are the way that they are. It’s not just something that someone woke up one day and decided “today is the day I want to start getting treated unfairly”, that this is just the way we are. We were born with this. I as a gay male was born to like other males. A lesbian was born to like other women. A bisexual was born to like both sexes (one or the other) and pansexual to just like a person based on their personality whether they are male or female. Transgendered male to female and female to male is a bit different, but in a sense it’s the same thing.
Anyway, I was touched that she said that her father cried and it began the healing process for them. This whole conversation made me totally forget about my petty problems because it showed me the bigger picture. Who cares if a few people are jerks to me, there are people out there with real problems and if my book can help at least one person, then I consider my job done.
So thank you to this person for sharing that with me. I really hope the healing process goes smoothly because you both deserve to have a real relationship as a parent and child. It certainly does get better!
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