Domain Registry Jersey City, NJ Scam

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This may appear to be your standard Domain registry form to renew your domain, but looks can be deceiving. This is a scam. You can send your payment to them, but your domain won’t be registered.

I have been getting these for years to renew my domains, and I usually always throw them in the trash because I have no use for them, but, I thought it was time I actually looked this up on the internet to find out what the deal is, and that’s when I found this website which says it’s a scam.

Here’s the thing. My web host automatically renews my domain every year and they charge me $12.99. This company wants to charge me $50 for one year, which means, well I was going to subtract the amount they would profit, but considering they wouldn’t actually renew my domain, they would profit 100% of that $50 and I would be $50 short because I would still end up paying $13 for my domain renewal. They are also offering to charge me the same price for a .org and .net, but I don’t want those because my book is not an organization and I don’t need .net for the same reason, it’s not a network. I only need .com. So basically I’m saying if you ever go to my website with .org or .net, that’s fake, the .com is the domain I registered my website under when I published my book Diary of a Gay Nerd on Amazon and Barnes & Noble in 2012.

So, if you have a domain, just let your host automatically renew it. Don’t be fooled by these notices because they are just trying to confuse people and make you feel pressured to send them money.

Illegally gay

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Someone sent me a heartbreaking direct message on the Facebook page for my book Diary of a Gay Nerd telling me they want me to let the world know the situation about LGBT people in the world.

“I am Ibrahim from sudan I LGBTI now iam refugee in kakumama camp in kenya I have 17 year old we live here bad life”

“I want u to tell the world about the situation here”

“Me I don’t want death here please help us It will be so good to tell unhcr about that please”

My response as always is that I am heartbroken over the situation for LGBTI people in the world. I told him that trust me, the world knows the situation. The world is watching. Here was my response.

Believe me, the world knows. I’ve shared several articles in the past to show how gay people in the middle East are being thrown off buildings and hung from ropes and stoned to death.
My voice is only heard by maybe 0.001% of the world.

I will share your story, and please know that I think about people who are being murdered every day just because of their sexuality. It makes me sad to know that this is happening.

It is unfortunately still illegal in most of the world to be gay. There are very few countries you can live where you have rights, I include the United States since there are still around 30 or more states where you can be fired or kicked out of your apartment if your boss or landlord discover you are gay. I myself was homeless for 10 months after I came out of the closet to my mother, and since I didn’t finish high school, being homeless didn’t end there. There have been 26 deaths in 2018 and 19 in 2019 of people who identify as transgender. It’s not safe to be LGBT anywhere in the world.

Here is a article I found from Outlife.org.uk that have a list of the penalties for being gay in the world. The list starts with life in prison, then 20 years, going down to 1 year, and then the penalties of being whipped or death penalty.

I feel completely helpless because there isn’t anything I can do about it. I am just a single ant in a gigantic ant farm. I’m not here to preach to anyone. I just want to let people know that this stuff is happening. I’m just here to open your eyes.

I’m sorry for what you are going through, and just know that I wish there was something I could do to help. All I can do is hope that one day people around the world can live peacefully without worry of being put in prison or murdered for their sexuality. Being gay is not a bad thing. We’re just trying to live our lives the same as everyone else. Stop murdering us.

Pride Paracord Bracelets

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I’ve been working on the packaging for my Etsy shop, and I really love these boxes. I made some pink boxes for the Breast Cancer Awareness paracord bracelets, and now I’ve made some boxes with rainbows and unicorns for the Pride paracord bracelets.

The cardstock that I bought is thick enough that it passes as a box, but I’m afraid that if I mail them to someone, they will be crushed by either human or machine, so I’ve put a rolled up piece of bubble wrap in the box in the middle of the bracelet, which means the lid doesn’t stay on, so I decided to wrap a sleeve around the box.

The bracelets are $9.95 each, shipping included. I have not raised the price for the box. I’ve even offered a discount coupon which is NERDY at checkout. Just measure your wrist with a cloth measuring tape, or use a string and hold that up to a ruler and make sure you aren’t measuring it too tight. There is a link to a video in the listing that shows how to measure your wrist. Yes, it was needed since someone bought a bracelet after measuring a bracelet they already owned instead of their wrist. The sizes are 6, 6 1/2, 7, 7 1/2 and 8 inches. Click the images to go to the listing.

New Packing for my Etsy Shop

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So I have had my Cricut Explore Air 2 for a couple of months now, and I’ve been learning not only how to create things that I can sell in my Etsy shop, but also to create packaging for my existing products.

My Etsy shop has lots of different things like stud and dangle earrings, bracelets that are paracord as well as Kumihimo and the regular flat friendship bracelets. Some things are better in boxes than in plastic bags with a card stapled to the top. The Kumihimo and flat friendship bracelets are OK in the bag, but not paracord.

I’ve also made a new box for the sets of 4 pairs of earrings. This is what they looked like before (left), compared to how they look now (right).

The reason I wanted to change these boxes was because it is easier for me if the Cricut scores and cuts the box in a colored thicker card stock paper that I can use as a visual so I can see what color the earrings are in the box. Like the red for example will be for this listing that has 4 pairs of earrings that are all red, but in a variety like one is solid red, another is red and white, another red and black and another that is red and gold. The same goes for the orange, yellow, green, blue and so on. I also have some neon earrings that will most likely be in a single neon color. Then of course I have my tie dye stud earrings which I would like to put in a box that has tie dye for the pattern of the paper, but if I can’t find that paper, I will figure something else out.

The earrings will actually come in the box on 2 cards rather than all 4 on one card. I did that for the picture for the listing. They will also be wrapped in bubble wrap inside the box to protect them if the package gets squished in transit.

Yes, I am selling a product, but the packaging is what I feel makes it look better when you receive it. And don’t worry, the prices haven’t changed.

Get nerdy with me and save 15% on your entire order with the coupon code NERDY. My shop’s website is GayNerd.Etsy.com. I hope you check it out today. I haven’t changed the packaging on everything, but I will be working on that.

Plastic Canvas Tardis

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Back in 2012 I saw a embroidery pattern for the TARDIS from the show Doctor Who, but I decided I didn’t want to just embroider it, I wanted to make it into a 3D version of the TARDIS. I had a program called Plastic Canvas Design Studio that I bought when I was visiting my aunts in Texas, so I made the design from the embroidery design, and I was going to start working on it, but I lost interest, so I put the project on hold. But the problem was that I put the PDF file for the instructions on my first blog at www.xanapus.com without checking to make sure it was perfect. I should have finished making the project before even putting that out there in the world.

So recently someone contacted me on the Facebook page I have to advertise that blog, and they were asking for help because the pattern didn’t make sense. Hmmmm, I wonder why. So I tried to explain it to him, but I figured it would probably make sense if I cut all new plastic canvas, that way I can show him pictures, and that was when I saw the flaws. I fixed all the problems with the pattern and created a new PDF file and I even created a video tutorial, which is in my YouTube channel for Diary of a Gay Nerd.

It is a fun project. I didn’t sew anything on camera, well, a couple of things that were difficult to sew. But I have all the pictures in the PDF file. Plastic Canvas Tardis.

I will not stay silent…

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I have seen some pretty good memes on Facebook over the years, and a lot of them have related to my situation, but I never really talk about how they related to me because honestly, who cares right? But this one relates to me in many ways throughout my entire life. Let me explain.

When I came out of the closet, all I heard from people was “Why do people have to know you are gay? Why can’t you just stay in the closet? Why do you have to have a boyfriend? Why can’t you just pretend you are straight and get married to a woman and just shut up about being gay?” It was this and so much more.

Why should I lie to everyone and cheat myself out of a happy normal life just because you are uncomfortable? For someone to say those things to me, you really are showing me how you really feel about me as a person, not just a gay person, but as a person in general. And if you think that your level of comfortable is more important than my own personal happiness, then I hate to tell you this pumpkin, but you are not that special. If you think I should live the life that YOU think I should live, then perhaps this friendship should end.

The other way this particular meme related to me is because I wrote my book Diary of a Gay Nerd and my sister sent her friend to Goodreads and to Amazon to attack me. Not write a negative review of my book, but to attack my character, then she herself created an account with the McDonald last name to attack my character. So I’m not going to stay silent just because you aren’t comfortable with the truth. And girl, it’s not even about you, get over yourself. Gurl bye!

Anyway, so this meme really related to me.

My Website

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I have been creating websites since 1997 back when I first learned how using America Online’s very own homepage creator. When I discovered Microsoft had a program called FrontPage, I started using that, and I had such a fun time creating websites, that I actually offered up my services to create simple fun websites. Boring, yes, but fun none the less.

So when I published my book in 2012, I bought a domain with hosting and created a simple, but very plain website. I don’t know what happened to that design, but I made a design in another website and I loved that design so much that I kept it, and what you see in the image is pretty much what I created. It is not that same website, this is the new version of it.

A couple of months ago I went to my website and one of the icons at the bottom was old and no longer applicable, it was the icon for Rainbow eBooks which has since gone out of business. I opened Microsoft’s newest version of FrontPage which is called Web Expression, and I tried opening my website in the program, but it kept giving me errors. I went to the web host to see if FrontPage extensions were installed, and I couldn’t even find where the FrontPage extension option was. I contacted them and they said they no longer have that feature. Shoot! I was screwed because I’ve been using FrontPage since the late 90’s and it’s literally all I know.

So I installed a web design program that I had bought many years ago that came with another program basically to put your website on all the search engines. The design program came with it, but I never tried making anything with it because I didn’t see a point. Anyway, I installed that many months ago so I could work on my website, but it was giving me issues, it wouldn’t center the page. Ugh!!!!

Anyway, long story short (too late?) I figured out that I could just make the web page in Microsoft’s Web Expression program, and then just upload the files using a FTP program. Why didn’t I think of this many months ago? So, here is my website again. I am seriously considering adding more than just a single page that you see in the image above, but I’m not quite sure what I would add that isn’t already in this blog. It’s a thinker.